Family Violence Mindset Solutions is about “Unlocking the why behind family violence and creating effective strategies for change.”
Behind every repetitive behavioural choice, there is the belief that the chosen behaviour is serving us on some level – that it’s working! In the case of family violence, the behavioural choices are not sustainable, because they serve only the perpetrator and never the victims of their abuse.
By exposing and explaining the mindset behind family violence and resolving the thinking that has caused the problematic behavioural choices, the goal is to:
- Alter the strategic interventions used with survivors of family violence, so that the women and children do not have to return to an environment of abuse.
- Expose the perceived benefits of violent behaviour for perpetrators and offer constructive and sustainable alternative behavioural choices.
What does FVMS do?
- Specialist 1:1 or couples coaching/counselling for survivors of family violence
- Professional Development on family violence for Educators and Health Professionals
- Consultation on family violence for businesses and service organizations
- Specialist training on family violence
Testimonials:
“Dianne has a wealth of experience and knowledge of working in many different sectors and is a very skilled speaker and presenter who have the skill to present the subject with stories relating to her own life experience and women’s stories, together with visual drawings to enhance the point of learning. Dianne’s understanding of FV, empathy and humour based analogies draws the women into participating and interacting with Dianne well.”
“Dianne’s sessions have been well planned and well presented. The feedback from the women has been always very positive. On the topic of Facing the Fear:
- “I never knew that he was scared of me and that was the reason he was not letting me speak out – as the truth will come out’.
- “It was awesome – everything just fell into place for me’.
- ‘I now go out into my community and interact with them – before I thought it was my shame now I know its not’.
- Sunshine FV Registrar said “Dianne’s presentation was excellent and she is so cool about this stuff she really states it the way it is and women just get it’.
- “The story and drawing was great – it really made sense to me’.
“On the topic “Why people do what they do – based on the 6 core human needs by Anthony Robbins” the response was immense – women really felt liberated some comments:
- “It so explains things and why people do things the way they do’
- “I am so glad now I understand why I do things too’
- “It is good to get some understanding of why people need to behave in such abusive ways’
“On the topic of Moving beyond regret:
- “I realised I have no regrets for leaving the children with him – if I didn’t I wouldn’t know what he was capable of – now my children and I are safe’.
- “I felt such relief – it has freed me from holding on to anger for the last three years’
- “This is great it has freed me to move on and accept that I have grown from my abusive relationship’.”
(Geraldine Ellawala, Lead Worker Women’s Program, Djerriwarrh Health Services)
“Dianne is a very energetic and engaging public speaker. Whenever I know she will be giving a presentation I expect that it will be exciting and engaging. Upon hearing her I feel quite satisfied that she has covered the topic very thoroughly with well researched and thought out content.
“She is a well-skilled public speaker and I would recommend her to give a presentation in any scenario and location.”
(Beth Treacy, President 2012, Women’s Federation for World Peace, Victoria)
“My mother was diagnosed with Dementia in 2007 at just 55 years of age, and due to her caring requirements, my siblings and I made a decision to place her in a nursing home where we believed she would be well cared for.
“However, whilst this move would mean that my mother would be well cared for, it affected me on a personal level. I experienced mixed feelings of loss, pain, guilt and confusion (including undealt ‘issues’ surrounding my past: childhood and adult – relationship with my mother – prior to her becoming ill) about the situation in which I had been ‘dealt’, and wondered if it was something that I would ever be able to work through.
“My sessions with Di have helped me tremendously to develop strength and confidence in myself, and in the situation that life has presented me with. From this, I have been able to embrace the situation and have moved into a space where I am now building a positive relationship with my mother, and more importantly myself in this new phase of my life.
“To Di – I thank you very much for your support through this difficult time. You have helped me work through one of the most challenging situations in which I have encountered in my life. Most importantly, you have given me a GIFT – that has empowered me – to recognize the strengths in which I have within myself, that I can draw on to overcome life’s challenges both today, and for the future.”
(Mo Billy, Manunda, Qld)
“Dianne is passionate about raising awareness on family issues, and has the experience both personally and professionally how to foster better family relationships. She is a great public speaker and presenter, who not only gives you the data, but brings with her practical tools and insights to help solve our biggest social crisis, family breakdown and family violence.”
(Anne Bellavance – Current President Women’s Federation for World Peace Australia, International Vice-President WFWP International)