Welcome! If you’re a survivor of Family Violence who is now on the journey to rebuilding your life, then you’re in the right place…
If you’ve left the abusive relationship permanently (congratulations – I know it’s not an easy road), you know that the journey to thriving is still not yet finished!
You’ve probably been through the initial counselling and legals. But support and funding has most likely run out, even though you need help to move to the next phase.
I know from personal experience that there’s very little support out there after the first 6-12 months of leaving a violent relationship. You can feel overwhelmed and abandoned, not sure where to go next.
That’s why I’ve created this program to help you.
Hi, my name is Di Simboro.
As a survivor (and now thriver!) of family violence I know what it’s like…the way it affects your mindset, identity and self-esteem.
My marriage was interracial, inter-religious, and I started our married life in a small, poor country in West Africa where I couldn’t speak the language or understand the culture.
I know that being in a foreign country creates a whole different layer of challenges when family violence is involved.
We returned to Australia and his abuse continued for more than 20 years. He was always calm and personable in public, but menacing in private. There was financial, verbal, sexual, spiritual and psychological abuse, but no black eyes and broken limbs, so I didn’t relate to his behaviour as ‘violence’.
But clearly it was unsustainable and I finally realised that all I could change was me. I stopped being Mrs Fix-it, stopped rescuing him. I gave him the house and all the stuff and I took the girls, never looking back. It wasn’t easy, but it was so much better.
Once I was “free”, while that was certainly a relief, I knew I wanted more. It wasn’t enough to simply survive. I wanted to thrive!
As part of my journey, I developed some simple but powerful strategies to create positive, long term change. I was able to rebuild, because I’d already proven to myself that I had the capacity to face really tough challenges.
I achieved financial independence – moving beyond reliance on child support from an unreliable man. I used whatever I had to invest in my own personal development – becoming a Master Coach and Behavioural Profiler.
To give back I volunteered as a support and advocate for other women going through abuse, which then led to starting my own business. I found my voice again, speaking about family violence at International Conferences and on Radio Interviews, plus I travelled extensively.
Now back on my feet, I decided it was time to share what I’d learned. Over the last 10 years, using my coaching skills, I’ve helped hundreds of women to Thrive After Family Violence.
This program is the next step. You see, I can only help so many women one-on-one. And not everyone can afford one-on-one coaching fees.
So I’ve packaged up my system into a unique support program – designed specifically for women who have completed the first 6-12 months of their journey, and now want support to thrive.
By unlocking the ‘why’ behind family violence in a way that is easy to understand, you’ll be able to let go of your past, regain your confidence and move forward to create a better future for you and your children.
“Dianne is passionate about raising awareness on family issues, and has the experience both personally and professionally how to foster better family relationships. She is a great public speaker and presenter, who not only gives you the data, but brings with her practical tools and insights to help solve our biggest social crisis, family breakdown and family violence.”
“Dianne’s sessions have been well planned and well presented. The feedback from the women has been always very positive. On the topic of Facing the Fear:
“I never knew that he was scared of me and that was the reason he was not letting me speak out – as the truth will come out’.
“It was awesome – everything just fell into place for me’.
‘I now go out into my community and interact with them – before I thought it was my shame now I know its not’.
Sunshine FV Registrar said “Dianne’s presentation was excellent and she is so cool about this stuff she really states it the way it is and women just get it’.
“The story and drawing was great – it really made sense to me’.
“On the topic “Why people do what they do – based on the 6 core human needs by Anthony Robbins” the response was immense – women really felt liberated some comments:
“It so explains things and why people do things the way they do’
“I am so glad now I understand why I do things too’
“It is good to get some understanding of why people need to behave in such abusive ways’
“On the topic of Moving beyond regret:
“I realised I have no regrets for leaving the children with him – if I didn’t I wouldn’t know what he was capable of – now my children and I are safe’.
“I felt such relief – it has freed me from holding on to anger for the last three years’
“This is great it has freed me to move on and accept that I have grown from my abusive relationship’.”
“Dianne has a wealth of experience and knowledge of working in many different sectors and is a very skilled speaker and presenter who have the skill to present the subject with stories relating to her own life experience and women’s stories, together with visual drawings to enhance the point of learning. Dianne’s understanding of FV, empathy and humour based analogies draws the women into participating and interacting with Dianne well.”
“What an amazing experience. Felt like there was a row of nails and one by one you hit each one on the head. Your insights will help many (and your practicality).”
“Dianne is a very energetic and engaging public speaker. Whenever I know she will be giving a presentation I expect that it will be exciting and engaging. Upon hearing her I feel quite satisfied that she has covered the topic very thoroughly with well researched and thought out content.
“She is a well-skilled public speaker and I would recommend her to give a presentation in any scenario and location.”
“To Di – I thank you very much for your support through this difficult time. You have helped me work through one of the most challenging situations in which I have encountered in my life. Most importantly, you have given me a GIFT – that has empowered me – to recognize the strengths which I have within myself, that I can draw on to overcome life’s challenges both today, and for the future.”
“I never knew that he was scared of me and that was the reason he was not letting me speak out – as the truth will come out.”
“It was awesome – everything just fell into place for me.”
“I now go out into my community and interact with them – before I thought it was my shame, now I know it’s not.”
“It is good to understand why people need to behave in such abusive ways.”
“I am so glad now I understand why I do things too.”
“I felt such relief – it has freed me from holding onto anger for the last three years.”
“This is great, it has freed me to move on and accept that I have grown from my abusive relationship.”
I realised I have no regrets for leaving the children with him – if I didn’t I wouldn’t know what he was capable of. Now my children and I are safe.”